“I’m not good enough,” my friend says. Ah, the universal lament of artists who are trying to market themselves or their wares. That thought is a perfect block. It stops one every time like a lit up stop sign on the road to fulfillment. The light is red, and the words on the stop sign are written in bold caps. I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH. And though it’s a false sign placed on a road where there are no cross streets, you dutifully brake and wait for the light to change. But it won’t ever change to green because it was put there by the devil. (In my theology the devil equals unfelt fear.)
“Okay,” I say to her. “Do you want to get present?” (She has done my Creative Explosion workshop and knows the drill.) Of course her immediate response is “No.” Right. Who wants to get present when the feelings may be difficult? No one.
But, with a sigh, she finally agrees.
“So, what sensation are you experiencing in your body?”
“I’m exhausted. And my heart is pounding.”
“So, sink into your exhaustion for a moment.”
She does. “My heart is really pounding.”
“Put your attention right in your heart. What does it feel like?”
“I’m getting the image of a huge waterslide.”
“Good. Can you go up to the water slide?”
“I’m on the ladder. I’m really scared. I’m alone. Oh, now, there are a lot of people around.” She sounds lighter. Amused. “Oh, one just gave me a little nudge to go!”
“What are you experiencing right now?”
“I’m going down the slide. It’s exciting. It’s fun! Oh! I forgot that fear and excitement are in the same place in the body!”
“Right. Fear says, ‘I can’t.’ Excitement says, ‘I can.’ But we have to be willing to get out of avoidance and feel the fear before that can happen, right?”
“Right! Okay. I know what I’m going to do to market my book today!”
“Go for it. You have written a wonderful book.”
So simple, and so powerful is this process to get one moving. Here’s the pattern:
- Avoiding feeling by believing negative thoughts.
- Experiencing the fear in your body separate from those thoughts.
- Getting clear about what action to take.
- Taking action..
But, sometimes we need a little nudge.
There is still time to enroll in the May Creative Explosion workshop.